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Nakakaaliw na thoughts
June 17, 2009two days in hibernation and i’m looking forward to more in the coming days. daming changes sa mga tao lalo na sa mga kakilala ko.
nakakaaliw ‘yung thoughts ko kanina lang… question is: why do we hurt? Why do we think we hurt? Why do we think other people hurt us?
Well, we really hurt. It is inevitable. It is a manifestation of existence (parang redundant). But does it have to be in relation to how other people treat us? Do we really have to attribute it to how others relate to us? In psychology, it is referred to as “fundamental attribution error”.
I realized (though absorption will come in much later, i guess) that it is not always about and because of others. In love, for example, we must grasp that most of the time, we hurt not because the other seems to be well or living well without us. Sometimes, it is not about them trying to show us that they are better off without us. It is actually just about them. Solely and independently. Not in any relation to us. They maybe ok not in any connection to us not being around them. They are simply ok. Period. Simple. It is not always about us loving them. It is not always about us thinking that our presence in their lives is all that they need.
Haha! wala lang. naisip ko lang. A thought I had because of somebody I know, just before i proceed to transportation laws. hehehe!
:-)
hehehe. i like this : “they are simply ok”
Posted by mish at July 2, 2009, 11:05 am